Topic: God’s View Concerning Marriage (Part 2)
I am happy to be with you today. As we unfold the mysteries in God’s Word again today, may the Lord give you quick understanding! Last week, we saw that God’s view of marriage is for the good of man. This week, we shall go further to see how God views marriage – A Help Meet for Him.
God’s Word says: And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).
Before Eve was brought into Adam’s life, certain responsibilities had been committed to him. It was his duty to dress and keep the garden (Genesis 2:15). But God saw that he needed help to fulfil those responsibilities.
In Genesis 1:28, God had said to the man … Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth. This statement is a blessing, but it also connotes responsibility. “Multiply”, “Replenish”, “Subdue”. Certainly, Adam needed help. So, God sent him help in the form of a woman one that was suitable, adaptable and complementary to him. She was not just any kind of help, she was … A help meet for him. Marriage was created to help man, not to hurt him. It was created for his comfort, not discomfort. Both the husband and wife are meant to support one another in every area of life. When a man is struggling to carry a heavy load alone, he experiences a lot of strain and struggles, but once he has someone to share it with, he is relaxed.
Husband and wife are meant to complement each other by filling up the vacuum in each other’s lives. In Genesis 27, there is this story about Rebecca. She failed in her duty as Isaac’s helpmeet and played an unpleasant role in the incidence of Jacob stealing Esau’s blessing. Isaac was old and so could not see, because his eyes were dim. Rebecca knew this weakness, but rather than compliment him by helping him, she exploited the situation by “assisting” Jacob to steal Esau’s blessing.
It was Rebecca that initiated the idea of Jacob stealing Esau’s blessing. Even when Jacob noted the loopholes in the plan, Rebecca still convinced him to go ahead. Without her support, Jacob would not have been able to deceive Isaac and steal Esau’s blessings. She used her husband’s weakness against him and her son.
Wife, you are meant to be a help-meet. You are created to surround your man with aid and assistance. His life should be better as a result of his association with you. Your contributions in his life should be positive. If the vices he had before you were married keep increasing rather than decrease, if his life remains at the same spot, then you’re not carrying out your responsibilities in his life.
You are to bring about a positive change in your husband’s life. The difference in his life, as a result of his marrying you, should be glaring for all to see. It is your responsibility to help him attain the greater heights God has prepared for him.
Be a helper, not a destroyer, an asset not a liability, a blessing, not a burden and a soothing balm, not a thorn in the flesh. Do you know what a thorn does? It makes life uncomfortable and unbearable. It causes a lot of pains.
You need the help of God to be able to be a help that is meet to your spouse. This comes by surrendering your life to Christ. You surrender by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready to be born again, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through [email protected], 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).
Pastor Faith Oyedepo is the wife of Bishop David Oyedepo, the founder of the Living Faith Church Worldwide a.k.a. Winners’ Chapel, and Senior Pastor of Faith Tabernacle, Canaanland, Ota, Nigeria.